Well ladies and gentlemen this is my last blog as a veteran's wife. He has finally gone off the deep end. Cheating, lying, stealing, drug usage, violence, mood swings, rage, everything I no longer have to be a part of it. I am here to tell any wife that is being abused by their husband and his excuse is because he has PTSD and he can't control it. LISTEN! They can get help because there is help out there. But they have to want it and if they don't get it you need to leave or tell them to leave. I have been married for a little over 4 years. And since he was discharged for the Army it has been a nightmare, which I dealt with because I thought that was what a good wife did. I know now, that no matter how hard it may be you have to protect your family and your children (if you have them). AND MOST IMPORTANTLY YOURSELF! For the longest time I have let my health fail and just myself in general. I have let myself go. I am overweight and no just a few pounds. I am not happy that I let someone control my life and dictate how I feel and look. And yes he did go to Iraq, but no he was not injured in Iraq. Truth be told he used to work at NARA (national archives records administration) and he actually stole someone's purple heart and bronze star and carries them around telling people they are his. I believe him, because he told me he didn't want to talk about it. But here's where it went down hill for him: The rank was wrong, the dates were a year off, it stated the event happened in fullijah (he was never there), and it also says that he was in combat. Here's the truth, he was stationed in Taji, Iraq. He was only allowed to go to Iraq if he signed a waiver regarding his back injury that he developed before he even went there, and finally due to his injury and the waiver he was not allowed to leave the FOB. So I asked his army buddies about this purple heart and bronze star. None of them are aware of these awards that he states that he "earned". All he has truly earned is disrespect but the few people that once respected him. The bond he used to rave about, is no longer there between him and his army buddies. Most recently I paid for a ticket for him to visit one and what did he do the whole time, look for drugs!!! Even used the guy's sister to score most of them. I mean wow!
The betrayal and lies could go on forever, well atleast 5 years worth, but I think I made my point. If you stay in your marriage praying that it will get better, but they don't do anything to get themselves better. Please learn something from me and move on with your life. Let it become someone else's problem. For instance, he is now someone else's problem, most likely his mother. She knows what he is and what he has done or should I say how she raised him. She did not raise a man. And she still continues to pay his way. Well I say let her and anyone else that wants to do go ahead. Because this bruised and battered girl is out!
